Temper tantrums – deal with it!
Temper tantrums occur because the child is frustrated. It can’t express himself fully and adequately.Toddlers need independence. It can’t control things. It doesn’t know how to speak well and communicate properly. Tantrums occur from 12 months up to 4 years or more.
What can we as parents do to eliminate the temper tantrums?
Well, there is no such thing as eliminating temper tantrums, but there are things we can do to ease them. The first thing you need to do is to deal with the personality of the child. Set up an everyday schedule for eating, nap time and bath. Try setting different things in the schedule. But be careful, if you notice your child gets stressed because of the schedules, ease it up. Fight fatigue, hunger, boredom, and overstimulation. Don’t plan any excursion before nap time. When you leave the house with the child, make sure the child has eaten and has his favorite toy with him. Set clear limits so that the child is sure to know what he can or can’t do. Make the child choose. Offer him several things for breakfast and let him choose what to eat. Avoid saying “maybe”. “Maybe means “yes” for the toddler.
Several tips and solutions for your toddler temper tantrum
Children at this age can burst anytime and anywhere. There are several steps you can take to prevent the toddler temper tantrums.
- Start playing a game. The game I SPY is a great way to distract the young child’s mind.
- Make him laugh most of the time. Laughing produces chemicals that are good for the brain and reduces stress.
- Hiding and appearing is a great way to redirect the mind of the child. Hide somewhere and appear very quickly with a “BOO!” and a smile. Kids love this game.
- Seek something in the distance. Let the child look for it. When the child begins to cry out loud, start speaking softly and quietly to him. Say something soothing to the child “I am sorry you’re mad”, or “I am sorry it happened”.
- But then, sometimes, it’s just too much drama and you need to give him the cold shoulder. Just act like you don’t notice him and he’ll calm down. But don’t do this too often. It might make him frustrated even more.
- Repeat the rules. By repeating the rules you set boundaries and teach him discipline. Sometimes touch heals everything. A simple hug can calm the child down.
- Don’t ever punish the child for the temper tantrums. Punishment will only do the opposite. It will make him even more frustrated and he will feel misunderstood.
- Consult the doctor if the tantrums are very frequent, accompanied by intense sadness, anger, food refusal, anxiety, aggression and continue after the age of 4.